OceanWise Psychological Services
Relationship Counseling in San Diego, CA
Helping couples and individuals overwhelmed by miscommunication, emotional distance, or ongoing conflict reconnect with each other and build a relationship that feels safe, meaningful, and fulfilling.
Tired of Feeling Like You're Fighting for This Alone?
It’s possible to rebuild what feels broken
There’s tension between you and your partner that never seems to go away. The conversations that used to flow now end in silence, arguments, or both. You might feel like you’re walking on eggshells, unsure how to bring things up without making it worse. The connection you once had feels distant. Maybe there’s been betrayal, or maybe it’s just been a slow drift you can't explain, either way, it hurts. Underneath the surface, there’s fear that this might not get better.
You’re frustrated. You’ve tried talking. You’ve tried not talking. You’ve even tried ignoring it, hoping things would reset on their own. But they don’t. Relationship counseling can help you break out of that cycle. You want support, not to be judged. You want to feel close again, to understand each other again. You want to know if this relationship still has a future, and if it does, how to find your way back to each other.
Reconnection is possible, even if it feels far away right now.
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3344 4th Avenue, San Diego, California 92103, United States
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This is where your story can start to shift
What Is Relationship Counseling?
Relationship counseling is a place to work on the relationship you’re struggling to hold together. It’s a space where both people get heard, where the patterns that cause tension get unpacked, and where solutions start to become clear. Whether you’re dealing with communication breakdowns, trust issues, or just a sense that things aren't working, this is where you get the support to sort through it all.
I won’t just sit and nod. I help you understand the root of what’s happening and give you real tools to change it. We’ll work together to build new ways to communicate, repair emotional wounds, and reconnect in a way that feels real again. And if you’re unsure whether you want to stay together or separate, this is also a space to have those hard conversations with care and clarity.
OceanWise Psychological Services
Why Choose Me For Relationship Counseling?
I’m Ryan Dumke, a board-certified clinical psychologist.
With over 12 years of experience helping people work through some of the most painful and complicated parts of their lives. I specialize in trauma-informed therapy and have worked with individuals and couples facing emotional pain that feels too big to handle alone. Including LGBTQ+ couples and those in the poly community.
What makes therapy with me different is the balance I strike, relaxed, casual conversations grounded in deep emotional work. My clients say they appreciate that I don’t sugarcoat things, but I don’t push them too hard either. I meet you where you are. My goal isn’t just to reduce symptoms. It’s to help you build something real. A relationship that feels connected. A life that feels meaningful.
We’ll work together to improve how you communicate, understand each other better, and strengthen your connection in a real, lasting way.
Feel more connected and supported daily
Benefits of Relationship Counseling
Clearer Communication
Understand each other better and express your needs without conflict or confusion.
Rebuilt Trust
Heal from breaches like infidelity or emotional withdrawal and rebuild safety together.
Stronger Connection
Restore emotional closeness and feel more supported and seen by your partner.
Conflict Resolution
Learn healthy ways to handle disagreements without shutting down or escalating.
Shared Direction
Create a shared vision for your future and align your goals as a couple.
Emotional Stability
Develop tools to manage strong emotions and feel more grounded in your relationship.
Things don’t have to stay this way
You Can Rebuild What Still Matters
When relationship issues go untreated, they tend to grow. Silence turns into distance. Arguments become resentments. You stop seeing a future together. But with support, that can change. You can develop real tools to repair your connection, manage difficult emotions, and feel like you're actually on the same team again. You don’t have to stay stuck in the same painful cycle.
the process
Take the First Step Toward Feeling Understood
Step 1
Book a Free Consultation
We’ll talk on the phone to see if we’re a good fit. I’ll answer any questions you have and walk you through next steps.
Step 2
Complete Your Intake
We’ll meet in person and talk through what’s been happening in your relationship, your goals, and how I can help.
Step 3
Start Working Together
We’ll begin building skills, repairing trust, and getting to the root of the issues so you can move forward with clarity.
This is what change can lead to
What the Future Could Look Like
Imagine what it would feel like to come home and actually look forward to seeing each other. To talk without it turning into an argument. To be able to bring up something hard and know it won’t lead to distance or blame. Imagine understanding each other again.
This work takes effort, but it can lead to real change. You can learn how to listen and be heard. You can rebuild trust, even if it's been broken. You can decide what kind of relationship you want and how to make that possible, or if you're better off parting with respect and peace. Either way, you don’t have to feel stuck anymore.
FAQs
Frequently Asked Questions about Relationship Counseling
Browse our frequently asked questions for detailed insights into our Relationship Counseling services, scheduling, and therapeutic approaches. Find answers to common queries to ease your journey toward healing and growth.
What if my partner doesn’t want to come?
You can still come on your own. Many people start solo and make progress that inspires their partner to join later.
How long does relationship counseling take?
It depends on your goals. Some couples feel a shift in a few sessions. Others stay longer to work on deeper issues.
Is relationship counseling only for couples in crisis?
No. It’s for anyone who wants to improve their relationship, even if things aren’t falling apart.
What if we decide to separate?
That’s okay. Therapy can support a respectful separation process and help both people move forward with clarity.
Start Building the Relationship You Want Today
Relationships are hard. Asking for help doesn’t mean you’ve failed. It means you care enough to try.